Why We Create Patterns

The Four Reasons Why We Create Patterns
By Zebulon Thomas

1. To protect us from something, protect us from not getting hurt, from not getting involved emotionally, from not getting upset, from not getting angry and from not losing control.
This is the pattern of defense: This pattern keeps us on the defensive side of everything. We feel that we have too much to lose or that we have something to hide. We play defense in almost every second of the day. If you keep playing on the defensive you’re never going to let anybody in, you’re never going to be able to enjoy your life because that requires some offensive plays and all you know how to do is play defense. So grab the ball and run for it, score some points and celebrate.

Break this pattern share something personal with a friend or with a loved one. Lower your walls and let people be a part of your life. Share moments of connection by letting yourself be yourself. Laugh out loud, be goofy and relax.

2. To keep us from moving forward, to hold us in our comfort zone. We try to live in a box so that we feel safe and therefore we create patterns that keep us locked in position.
This is the pattern of security: We create a pattern like this to comfort ourselves so that we feel protected in some way. You’re never going to grow and experience anything new and exciting in life if you stay in your box; you’re never going to know what you’re capable of achieving and creating if you don’t step outside of your comfort zone here and there.

Break this pattern by expanding your comfort zone, letting new opportunities in. Change the direction in your mind from looking behind you to looking in front of you. Move in the direction that brings you more of the things that make you happy.

3. To deal with change and to deal with stress. We create a series of patterns to get us through the rough times.
This is the pattern of disconnection: We create a pattern like this to disengage or disconnect ourselves from events and change so that we remain familiar with our surroundings and situations. If you keep disconnecting yourself from events that challenge you to grow in some way then you’re never going to get stronger in being able to create the life you deserve to live. If you keep blowing things off so that you don’t get stressed then after a while all that stress turns into anxiety then back into stress until you reach overwhelm and exhaust yourself in every way possible.

Break this pattern by connecting to yourself emotionally, let yourself vent when you’re feeling upset, let out a little scream or yell, cry for a few minutes and then pick yourself back up and put a big smile on your face and hold it for 2 to 3 minutes. If you’re feeling stressed out because things seem bigger than you or too much for you to deal with don’t disconnect from the world and hide, or walk away from the stressful situation. Take a moment and connect yourself to your source, whatever that may be for you, and just give everything over to that source so that you can focus on a solution and step up without feeling down, depressed, overwhelmed or stressed. Simply turn it over to your source and instantly you will feel the weight lift off of your shoulders.

4. To hide what we are feeling, to hide who we are on the inside. We create patterns that project a false image, a wall for us to stand behind so that others don’t completely connect with us.
This is the pattern of ego: We create a pattern like this to deal with low self-esteem or shyness. Some individuals create this pattern to feel more powerful, successful and above others. If you keep repeating this pattern then you’re going to find yourself alone a lot and you’re going to feel lost because you haven’t taken the time to express yourself or communicate in a way that moves you, that truly gets you going. This pattern will only keep you on a high for so long and then the false image you might have been projecting fades away and then you find yourself naked with the truth. So don’t build your personal foundation out of ice, because when the sun comes up its going to melt. Instead build it out of all that you are inside because then it will be strong enough not only to support you, but to support others who lean on you from time to time.

Break this pattern by eliminating the need to feed and protect your image and you will have broken the pattern of ego.

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PRESS RELEASE!

Zebulon Thomas’ life has taken some unusual twists and turns since growing up in Brunswick. So seven months ago, he sat down to write about what he’s learned and his book, “Seven Days of Refining your Life,” is now a reality.
What Thomas has learned didn’t come from academia, however, it came from life experience. With a passion for a career in music, Zebulon dropped out of high school and hit the streets trying to become a hip-hop artist. There were a lot of auditions and promises and disappointments. He was basically out on the streets among gangs and drugs and violence. He could see how dangerous it was.
He decided to change his luck by trying to get into the music business in Miami and left with nothing but a bus ticket and a bookbag. He got there and was homeless. He often slept on the beach where he met some very interesting people including one man who had been wealthy and had lost it all. “He was the happiest person I ever met,” he said, “he told me he loved his life.”
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